I know how it feels...we've all been there. I know right now it feels as if your world is coming crashing down. The first week is always the hardest. I'm not saying that it gets any better after that. I've had my fair share of experiences and heartbreak. Here's a little advice from my heart to yours.
The most effective step after a break up is the "out of sight, out of mind" method. If you're spending your days thinking about him, looking at his Instagram, who he has followed, who's pictures he's liked...you'll drive yourself bat shit crazy. I recommend you block his number, so you're not anticipating his phone call or text message. You're in the driver seat of your life and you have full control of yourself and your own actions. Hanging out with his friends or going out of your way to go to a party you know he's going to be at is the absolute WORST idea. You'll just end up hurting yourself more in the long run. Your thoughts are yours and every time you have that urge to act out on these emotions just remember your self worth.
Embrace your feelings, it's okay not to be okay. I have found myself putting up a front in the past and it really does weigh you down. The more you swallow how you feel instead of talking about it, the worse it gets. I'm not saying to go around town crying everyday and telling everyone what a mess you are. You should always hold your pride but don't let your ego get in they way of embracing how you truly feel. If you are constantly lying to yourself it will only hurt you worse in the long run. One of the bests tactics is journaling. Write down everything you are thinking about, how you REALLY feel. I promise you it's so satisfying to look back at what you wrote once you've healed. You'll see how far you've come and all of the progress you've made. I also recommend writing a list in your journal on reasons why you should never get back with him so that you can look back at it every time you're tempted to cave! You're only human, it's ok to hurt. Just remember you are in charge of healing yourself.
Don't self sabotage. Trust me, this can be done in many different forms. Starving yourself or binge eating is not the ANSWER. During this time, you want to eat whole foods, drink your celery juice, and stay HEALTHY. Keep your vibrations high. The worst thing you can do is call his friends or family to vent. Talking shit isn't it either! You'll only make yourself look stupid and desperate. Also, don't just go throwing yourself at anyone just because you're heart broken. This will lead you to missing him, looking bad, and feeling low about yourself. Instead of doing all of these things what you should do is the COMPLETE OPPOSITE. Surround yourself with people who have your best interest. Stay fit and healthy. Vent to YOUR friends and family and surround yourself with people that love & respect you.
At the end of the day, everyone comes in your life for a reason. They're either a blessing or a lesson. Stay strong, don't forget your worth, and always love yours!